Cinderella didn't ask for a Prince

"Cinderella Never Asked For A Prince"

As a kid I always illustrated Cinderella. Thinking back - I never drew the prince. I drew Cinderella, her room, her dress, her carriage, her shoes...
So you know I had to do a piece of Cinderella and this awesome quote.

After reading this quote it reminded me of the at-risk youth I have worked with for many years now. One of the biggest obstacles I have noticed for the females is - understanding that they don't need some one to "complete" them or make them feel "worthy."

When we take the time to grow on our own as an individual, we learn about ourselves, we become strong, find our potential, our voice becomes clearer - we learn that we are just enough as ourselves. We then can enter a relationship as one full part instead of two incomplete parts coming together. 
Imagine a painting done by two toddlers? Now Imagine a painting done by two adults. 
The first is going to be a hot mess, there will be arguing, ignoring, crying, tantrums, etc.. The second example, there will be sharing, discussion, experience.

As Celestine Chua from personalexcellence.com states, "When you view a relationship as something that completes you, you attract other people who have this mindset too, and that leads to a relationship which is rooted in fear and negativity. The latter attracts your soulmate relationship, one that elevates you, makes you a better person, brings you actual bliss and joy."Go, do some growing on your own - alone.

Cinderella didn't go looking for a prince, her presence drew him.

Cinderella was confident in herself, her inner beauty glowed from the inside out. She went into that ball owning it. The prince had no choice but to notice her. She lived how she was supposed to and she attracted what was hers. 

When we know who we are, what our convictions are, have taken the time to grow ourselves, we have full clarity of what we want and only go after what is best for us, we will more likely know exactly who to "Shoo fly shoo" away from our lives without fear that no one else will ever come along. Also, if someone doesn't, SO WHAT? You are too valuable and precious to just be with just anyone.

So the next time you watch the movie or read the story, remember Cinderella really didn't go about looking for a prince. She had plenty of time to learn about herself and know exactly what she wanted and her inner light shone bright. 

You have the power - to choose

"At any time you have the Power to change your story."

Sometimes my artwork is inspired by an image or a quote. This time it was by this quote. I wanted to convey how would I have power to change my story? Through words? choices? decisions...? of all those words "CHOICE" was the one that stood out the most. So I wanted the girl to have many books and stories to choose from. 

Remember those books when we were kids...the one if you chose one option or another you would could change the ending of the book? I think they were "Choose your own Adventure Books." We had the power to change our story in those books by the choices we made - why not in our life story?

In the field I work in, many of the victims go BACK to their abuser up to seven times before they finally CHOOSE to say enough is enough and I'm leaving no matter what. Those seven times could be because they didn't have enough support, money, job, childcare, etc..., but that seventh time (or third, or fifth) could be the one time that they CHOSE to not be a victim anymore and change their story, especially how it's going to end.

Not all of our lives are to that point, however, we all have that same POWER to CHOSE -  

• CHOICE between staying at a job you don't like or pursue your dream.
• CHOICE between living  in familiarity where all is comfortable or venturing out to somewhere new 
• CHOICE between living authentically or following what the world says how you have to be.
• CHOICE between focusing on this or that over there
• CHOICE between letting this circumstance kill you or make you stronger
• CHOICE between going thru this door or another door

choice

: the act of choosing : the act of picking or deciding between two or more possibilities

: the opportunity or power to choose between two or more possibilities 

: the opportunity or power to make a decision

: a range of things that can be chosen

I'm not saying that we all have to run out, join a circus, move into an RV and travel, but we do have the power to choose to change how our life's story is going right at this moment by the power of Choice.

GOOD Luck in your adventure!

This print will be available for purchase on my website

Perspective

"The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don't have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it."

- Chris Pine

There are days, even weeks, when I can get into a rut. I get stuck at looking at what I'm not doing, what I haven't done, what hasn't worked out, where I am, am I even making a difference?

Well, this kind of thinking can get me down, anybody down. Today, as I was driving to RaceTrac to drown my blah mood in a cup of coffee,

I asked myself, "What if I stood on the outside of myself and looked at my life like I was a totally unrelated person?" 

What would I think of my life then?

Doing this helped me. I stopped and thought...

"Wow, this husband and wife are working in fields that help to change the world, they have two beautiful, well behaved, doing well in school kids, a long, wonderful marriage, a cute little family, they live a simple life, and they have talents that they use all the time." 

Looking it at my life from a different perspective like that made me be like, "I want to be them."

I also RE-defined what my present job description is - 

Original description: Work in after school program

New description: Assist victims of domestic violence with child care so they can start a new life over by either looking for a job or child care while they are working to save money to move their families to a new safe place and away from a life of domestic violence and fear.

So lesson to myself ..

Changing your perspective and definitions can help get you out of a rut.

All art work images are for sale on my website www.MargiesArtStudio.com

Sometimes I feel...

Do you have days where you feel like you are getting beat up from every side? Be it from school, work, house, Laundry (LOL), just life...well when I did this painting, that was what I was thinking about. I guess, getting weary in well doing...but thank God, I don't always feel like that. I gird up my loins and keep on keeping on. Just wanted to share my newest painting. Hope you enjoy!